I Didn’t Care for Dildos Until I Tried This One From Lelo

My first sexual encounter the toy was a bright blue dildo. I was about 19, and as a college student in New Hampshire, I did what anyone in my position would do: raced to the nearest town to find a sex shop. With my best friend by my side, I walked in and out of Condom World on Newbury Street so quickly that I only had time to grab the first sex toy I saw and pay for it, keeping my head down the whole time. To say that the early 2000s were different when it came to sex toy acceptance would be an understatement.

In my small town’s mind, it was something not to be discussed and was the very definition of taboo. But they weren’t taboo enough to stop me from buying this battery-operated blue monstrosity, with its exaggerated veins and head. I was embarrassed by it from day one, even more so after using it, with no understanding of what I was supposed to get out of it.

With age comes wisdom

As I got to know my body better, exploring it alone or during partnered sex, with other toys I purchased, I realized. Although I enjoy penetration with my partner(s), I haven’t particularly enjoyed dildos. I found them the most impersonal, poorly designed, and since it was only in my late thirties that I would finally have an orgasm thanks to the G-spot simulation, in terms of pleasure, they were not for me. That didn’t stop me from trying to make something out of it, especially as I started writing about sexual wellness and suddenly had a world of sex toys and the latest innovations at my fingertips.

My feelings about dildos changed drastically with the Lelo Gigi 3. Finally, an internal dildo with a flattened head rather than a cone shape, meaning it covered more of the G-spot area. Breaking news, it’s exactly what I needed after all this time. While so many other dildos have rounded heads, which many people love, the Gigi 3’s flat head is what really sets it apart.

It’s not just the shape of the head, but also how it disperses stimulation. Because all eight vibration patterns are delivered through the flattened head, the sensations are more intense and rumbling, meaning I can feel them branching out and reaching more nerve endings. People with vulvas are too often taught that when it comes to sexual pleasure, the focus should be on the clitoris or the G-spot – or both – but the reality is that this entire area is teeming with nerve endings. This is why people with a vulva can have orgasms outside of these two areas, such as via the A-spot (anterior cul-de-sac) and the U-spot (urethral sponge).

When size matters

I’m not a size queen. I’m the first to admit that smaller is better when it comes to external vibrators. However, when it comes to internal vibrators, the size and shape of the shaft matters. The Gigi 3 is the perfect size for G-spot stimulation. Even those who haven’t yet officially found their G-spot can’t miss it when using the Gigi 3, because the length and slight arc of the shaft places this flattened head exactly where anyone with a vulva wants it. For me, I like to put a few drops of water-based lube on the head and shaft of the Gigi 3, get comfortable, then slide it inside. From there, I can blend into the moment without fumbling with buttons (the Gigi 3 is controlled by an app).

When I’m not in the mood for internal play, the Gigi 3’s flat head is ideal for direct clitoral stimulation or teasing other parts of my vulva. As I learned, just because the labia don’t have as many nerve endings as the clitoris doesn’t mean they like to be ignored.

Is the Lelo Gigi 3 my favorite sex toy? No. Depending on the day and my mood, my favorite sex toys and vibrators change. But if you’re someone with a vulva who’s never been into dildos, the Gigi 3 might be your ticket to sexual pleasure. This might also be suitable if you prefer clitoral stimulation, but want the vibrations to encompass more than just the outer tip of the clitoris. Although the Gigi 3 can be used anywhere, internally or externally, if you have a vulva, it’s a must-have.