The Eve 6 Guy Offers Advice On Difficult Friendships

“I feel like I am doing all the big work in this friendship”

Dear Eve 6 Guy,

I have been a best friend with K. for 17 years. We are long -distance friends – she is in Georgia, I am in Long Island. She came here to visit several times, but our friendship is mainly overvalued by email, sms and telephone. We used to speak every day, but since our lives became busy and that the years spent, it was sometimes a week, then once a week.

Our friendship is deep. She knows things about me, no one else knows. For more than a decade, we shared details on our lives and the lives of our children. We have crossed ruptures together. We talked about our respective edges.

We had times when we separated, but we have always returned against each other, we both apologize for not better giving priority to our friendship. Well, K. just crossed a bad break (they were engaged and lived together), and she has health problems. I know she likes space when she is extremely stressed, so I give her that.

The last time we talked, she told me that she had a difficult duration and that she was sorry that she was not a very good friend. I told her that I would always be there for her when she was emotionally ready to speak. I didn’t say anything about my own fear of recent health or my fragile emotional state because I did not want to grant it from my problems when it has clearly.

Two weeks have passed and I did not hear about her, so I sent a brief text asking me if everything was fine. She said she was fine and asked me to send her an update on my health problems and my children. So I did it. It was two and a half weeks ago. I have heard nothing since then.

It is not the first time that I feel that I have been doing all the big work in this friendship. I have already been turned upside down on this subject. But this is the first time when it looks like she actively ignores me, and I really think that our relationship has become an burden for her, just another thing on her very complete list to check when she can.

I don’t want to be that. I prefer to end the friendship for good than to be put aside every two weeks by it. But how do I get closer? Do I let him know how I feel and add to his feelings of guilt about us, or do I just make friendship stagnate?

I feel far too old for all this. I thought that you have had easier older friendships. Don’t guess. Enjoy any advice you can give me.

– House as if I were a ghost