Feeld launches ‘Reflections’: An interactive kink quiz

I really wondered if my specific brand of arousal was actually “normal.” It turns out that the concept of “normal” is basically an illusion. This is the main takeaway from the new “State of Reflections: Am I Normal?” » from the Feeld connection app. report, which found that 42 percent of non-Feeld traditional daters actually practice kink.

Coinciding with the report, which “explores the gap” between what society describes as “normal” and what people Really desire, Feeld has launched an interactive quiz called Reflections to help you define your own preferences. The tool was developed with researchers at the University of Michigan’s Bodies, Identities, Intimacies, and Technologies (BIIT) Lab, and you don’t need a Feeld account to do it.

But whether you’re single, in a relationship, or in a complicated situation (Godspeed), trying to express your boundaries and desires to another person can be exhausting, especially if you use apps. This feature is designed to make things a little less awkward.

Feeld’s new perverse quiz

Here’s how it works: Go to the link and click “Get Started.” You will then be asked if you want to continue in the browser or use the app. I’m on my computer writing this, so naturally I chose to continue in Chrome. Of course, there is a little age verification. But it’s based on honesty; simply check the box to confirm that you are 18 years or older.

The questions are divided into three categories: Desires (four parts, 10 minutes), Boundaries (five parts, seven minutes), and Relationships (five parts, seven minutes). Each category asks you to answer questions on a scale from “not at all interested” to “extremely interested.” The questions are written in very easy to understand language.

A little advice: Make sure you really take your time with your answers. Once the assessment is complete, there doesn’t seem to be a reset button to go back and start from scratch.

The Desires category explores different types of kinky play (e.g. BDSM, exhibitionism, group sex). This makes sense, given that Feeld’s report reveals that its members are almost three times more likely to engage in BDSM and power play than the general population. The Limitations section covers red flags and potential problems. According to the study, 75 percent of Feeld members consider talking about safe sex normal, while only 25 percent of external encounters say the same. Having an entire section dedicated to this makes establishing these ground rules incredibly validating.

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The Relationships portion focuses on communication styles and whether non-monogamy is something you would be comfortable with (which it is, since Feeld is originally an app for polyamorous people, although more and more normies have created accounts). There are two written questions at the end of this section. You can only write 300 characters maximum, and I’m not sure how they factor that into your overall “score”.

Once you complete a section, the tool provides personalized results that reflect your specific values ​​and communication style. For example, the Boundaries section measures your voice and consent on a scale from “finding voice” to “warming up” to “clear,” complete with a specific percentage. You can then click “go further” to get a full analysis of your results, and there’s even a QR code you can scan to save them to your Feeld account.

Overall, I felt my percentages were pretty fair – although my experience highlighted an interesting quirk in the assessment. The quiz gave me a score of 24 percent for my kinky affinity, which I don’t think is entirely accurate. I realized that I was responding to these specific prompts through the lens of a specific relationship rather than thinking about my desires in general, which was definitely skewing my results. If you take it, keep this in mind: your score may vary depending on who you imagine.

Credit: Screenshot: Feeld

On the other hand, my perverse orientation score was perfect. This gave me an 83 percent (“integrated”), rightly noting that kink plays a significant role in my desires. He even broke this down into subcategories, giving me a rating of 78% (“kinky”) for expression, 53% (“exploratory”) for interests, and 100% “enthusiastic” for toys.

Once the assessment is complete, your results are available via a shareable link, which is a great way to put your limits on paper. The tool basically does the heavy lifting of figuring out how to describe what you want, so you can avoid those awkward introductory questions with potential partners. If you want to share your preferences upfront, simply take the quiz, save your results, and send the link to anyone you speak to. Above all, don’t worry about being “normal.”